Sometimes the hardest person to love is yourself.

I spent all day contemplating what I wanted to write about tonight. I honestly had no idea until I opened up our ask.fm account to see if we had any questions. I don't know if you know this but we occasionally have guys ask us for advice. Tonight a guy sent us a 'question' - it was actually more of a statement - but it said, "I'm unsure as to whether or not I am good enough for her."

I began to think about how so many people think that they might not be good enough - especially for the guy or girl that they truly have feelings for. Well, I'm here to say that YOU. ARE. GOOD. ENOUGH. It literally breaks my heart when y'all tell us that you don't feel good about yourselves. I'm not going to sit here and pretend like I've been completely happy with myself my entire life. So what did I do to feel better about myself?

I made a change. I knew what I'm wasn't happy about - my weight. After sitting around moping about how I was so unhappy with myself, I decided to make a change. I worked out and ate healthier. After a while, I saw results and was extremely happy. On another note, I went through a phase where I suffered from mild depression. I was a pessimist and looked at everything from a negative point of view. I don't know what happened but one day something just clicked for me. When I realized that I was thinking of something in the "glass half empty" perspective, I would try to tell myself that it was going to be okay and that it would all work out. That was the hardest thing I ever had to do. 

If you are constantly working to better yourself - whether it be to get to a healthier weight or to live with a positive attitude - you are constantly making yourself feel better. Don't do it for a guy... do it for you. The right man will love you no matter what. Do it so that you can look in the mirror and smile because of how happy with yourself you are. Do it so that you can be the BEST version of yourself. 

I constantly reminded myself that I am amazing. Y'all, when I say that it breaks my heart when I get messages from you guys saying that you don't think you're pretty enough, smart enough, whatever, I mean it. I can't tell you how many times I've been in tears over it. You guys don't realize that this twitter means more to me than randomly sending messages to my future husband. I want to inspire you - to give you hope. 

So what have I done in the past to remind myself how amazing I am? I would leave myself little notes. I have written on my mirror "You're beautiful" or bible verses such as "I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Your works are wonderful, and I know that full well. - Psalm 139:14." When I see these, I am constantly reminded that I need to stay positive. I can tell you what I have done but at the end of the day, it's ultimately a mindset that you are going to have to put yourself in. It's so hard. My gosh, it's so hard but trust me... When you get to a point when you can look at yourself and say "I'm happy and proud to be me because I am fabulous #hairflip," it's the best feeling in the world. 

I realized that God loves me and forgot about everyone else. This is the MOST important thing EVER. The only one who can judge you is God. He made you. He LOVES you. Stop comparing yourself to every other girl out there. They don't matter. God matters. 

I'm ending this with this incredible music video. Turn your speakers up and jam out! 

Love always, M 

P.S. I love y'all. Thank you for inspiring me.You guys help me to be the best version of myself that I can be. 

Wedding Wednesday: @HowHeAsked

Hey y'all. I hope everyone's having an amazingggg week. So this blog post is a little different! It's more of a feature blog. Before y'all go on a rant about how I'm being paid to do this and so on and so forth, I'm really not. This is all me. I just found a website that I really, really like and want everyone to be as obsessed with it as I am!! 




If you couldn't already tell, I am a hopeless romantic through and through. I am absolutely in love with watching wedding and proposal videos so naturally when I found @HowHeAsked, I immediately became obsessed. This website will seriously make you laugh, make you cry, make you happy, make you hopeful, and make you believe in love. This is a website where you can submit your own proposal. They'll blog it for you, and then you can send it to all of your friends and family. If you think I'm doing this IMMEDIATELY, you're thinking right. 

The founder of HowHeAsked.com, Stacy Tasman,  is so awesome. The reason that I love this website so much is because she wants others to see that true love really does exist. 

"I started HowHeAsked in Fall 2011 after a dear friend of mine got engaged. I felt blessed to be a part of the proposal and honestly couldn’t tell you who was more swept up in the emotion – my newly engaged girlfriend or my [extremely mushy] self. Alas, HowHeAsked.com began.

I’m a storyteller myself and unstoppably inquisitive. I love all things real, passionate, and energetic, and when life gives me lemons – I build a lemonade stand. I live in New York City, am a University of Florida graduate, and I’m lucky to have traveled through some of the world’s most beautiful countries over the past few years.

Most importantly, I get to know extremely excited women and help them share the most amazing story of their life with their friends, family, and all the love-addicted readers of HowHeAsked. And yes, I cry reading every single one."

Anyways... I've literally spent HOURS on this website but here are a two of my favorites!!! 

The Ultimate Disney Proposal 

A Proposal Across the World 

Hahaha, it just took me over an hour to write this because I kept stopping to watch more videos. Anyways... I hope you love this website as much as I do!! They're relaunching their website in a week because of high volume of submissions coming in but you can still view the posts. 

Love, M. 

p.s. YOU'RE WELCOME. I KNOW. IT'S AMAZING. 

Standards

Alright so after asking y'all what you wanted to read tonight, you decided that you would rather hear about having standards than how I knew I was in love. (Don't fret, I'll write that blog post later)

I cannot stress how important it is for you to have standards for you want in your future husband and how you should never settle. You need to realize what is important to you and realize that if the guy that you like does not meet these requirements, he might not be the one for you. I understand that it is hard to get over someone but think about it this way... If he does not meet all of your requirements, are you sure that you would want to spend the rest of your life with a man like that? Figure out what you want in a man and don't settle for any less. If that means that you need to end things with a guy, do it. Why are you investing your heart and emotions into a man who you know you will not marry? I don't know about you but I don't have the emotional capacity to set myself up for heart break and disappointment. 

My requirements:
1. Loves God
2. Faithful and Loving
3. Will be a good father to my future babies
4. Driven because he knows that he will one day have a family to help support
5. Gets along with my family

Can you list your top 5? If not, you should really think about that as you are getting ready to fall asleep for the night. You need to know what you are looking for in a future husband before you begin your search.



Now that we've talked about actually having standards, we need to talk about the difference of having having high standards and having high standards that are just not realistic and reasonable. You never know who you will fall in love with so have those 4-5 non-negotiables but then go into every potential relationship with an open mind. I always thought that I would marry a man who was 6' or taller but my man is only 5'10 or 5'11. I always thought I would marry a country boy but here I am dating a city boy. I thought I would never date a man who was older than my big brother but my man is is a year older than him. Wesley is not exactly who I thought that I would end up with but now that I am with him, I would not want to be with any other man. He is absolutely perfect for me in every way possible.

Y'all, I just want to remind you that just because you may have not found your prince charming yet, it doesn't mean that you will never meet him. Never lose faith that you will find your perfect man. He's out there. God will send him to you when He thinks that you both are ready.

Take delight in the LORD, 

and He will give you the desires of your heart.

- Psalm 37:4

Love, M 

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